I am a twin flame and am helping others find and align with their own twin flames as well. I have created this blog post to share tools, tips, and guidance with divine feminines along this journey. The name of the game is patience, faith, facing triggers, letting go, trust, unconditional love, and healing abandonment issues.
"Blessed Are They That Have Not Seen, and Yet Have Believed" ~ Jesus
My Mayan life path number is all about patience so, of course, I would have to embark on this grand endeavor (I remember my horse trainer warning me that patience would be my biggest obstacle to overcome in life). It helps to see what others are going through so we can boost each others' faith so feel free to share in the comments below.
We're in this together, but I talk to a lot more people about this in my job as well as the research I've done so feel free to ask me anything. I'm seeing more and more proof and evidence of twin flames coming together at this time and it's super inspiring! I share them regularly on my Facebook page. That's the whole purpose of it. It's not just a cutesy relationship... it's about raising the vibration of the planet aiding in its ascension.
Masculines are welcome to participate as well, but I'm addressing the feminines here because I am one so I know the journey best from my angle. Michael Timby is a great resource for masculines.
TOOLS I'VE CREATED FOR TWINS
House of Idems is another great Facebook group for twins. There's great support there as well.
MY FAVORITE YOUTUBE READERS
House of Idems (Q&A and Channelings)
Twin Flames (ignore the teasers if you don't want to pay)
Twin Flame Psychic 1111
Queen of Swords (fast forward to her card reading if you don't want to listen to all the other stuff)
Numbers to watch out for and what they mean: 1's = Yes's, twin flames; 2 = partnership/union; 3 = Twin flames (you, your divine partner, and source as one); 4 = stability and being surrounded by angels' support; 5 = Change; 7 = Divine/divinity 8 = Infinity/long term happiness w your ideal mate; 9 = almost there; 10 = it is done! This is complete. So be it. Your wish is the universe's command.
THE PURPOSE OF TWIN FLAMES
To save planet Earth! I know that sounds so dramatic, but it's true. We are forming a new Earth at this time and the collective vibration of the planet needs to raise to a certain level for ascension to occur. The happiness and harmony of the twins not only raise each others vibrations, but the entire collective and anyone they come into contact with and inspire during their everyday lives. Also, twin flames usually have a mission they have together that is also quite inspirational and exciting for anyone participating so that is yet another angle from which they bring great joy to our collective energies.
IS THERE ONLY ONE TWIN FLAME FOR US?
Yes. I believe this to be the case and Elisabeth from "House of Idems" concurs. There are plenty of karmic partners (those we learn from), but only one that shares this deep soul connection.
IS THERE A FALSE TWIN FLAME?
No. But there were three guys I thought might be my soulmate before I met the actual one. This was partially because of a special circumstance where I was inspired to move to Boulder by a deceased ex boyfriend who told me to go there to find my soulmate. This made me look for him constantly. But, as the universe loves to surprise us, I really didn't see this one coming. And, reflecting back on their significance, each one prepared me for a certain aspect of my twin I had to get acclimated to. One made me feel comfortable and desired in my skin again and ignited passion in me again for the first time since my divorce. He was 20 years younger, good looking, and tender hearted. The next taught me about shy guys, what a great catch they are once they commit, and I saw the importance and relevance of past lives and how they influence us in this life. He was also young and super cute. He and I had a really playful, sweet connection. The third was my best friend who was 21 years younger. We hung out for hours and never tired of each other. We made each other laugh so hard for hours on end. We were fascinated by each other. We talked about everything under the sun with complete honesty. We could sit and 'just be' in silence together. My twin has all of the attributes of all three of them and then some, but is only 15 years younger, more mature, solid, established, emotionally intelligent, and more in line with my beliefs. If I'd have had all this in my twin all at the same time, it'd have been overwhelming and I'd probably have felt I wasn't good enough. I still get twinges of that, but, if it weren't for these others, I don't think there'd have been a chance. I'd have just been too skeptical of it all as too good to be true. It's all perfectly and divinely orchestrated so trust the process. You'll know when you've hit home.
AM I THE DIVINE FEMININE (DF)?
The divine feminine is a woman who has gone through hell and back only to come to a loving and mature place of feeling abundant and trusting in the universe. She feels like life is on her side and is quite happy with how her life is at present. Her face is to the sun and she has her arms out taking in the sun's rays. She is grateful and radiant. She has not become tainted by her past hurts. Those hurts have only become the charcoal that makes her fire burn more fiercely. She, often times, is a healer or spiritual teacher or is stepping into some sort of nurturing role in life. She speaks her truth in a loving and passionate way and doesn't cower at opposition. She's learned to stand up for herself with firmness yet gentleness. She takes personal responsibility for her own happiness. She loves her divine masculine unconditionally. If this doesn't describe you, remember there are different phases or waves so if you still have some forgiveness or healing to be had till you feel this free, don't be disheartened. Just keep developing and you'll be on the next wave. It's all a matter of divine timing.
I wonder if both the divine feminines and masculines were the "sweet ones" who tried to make our marriages work, who tried to be in integrity and honor, who were as faithful as we could be, told the truth, and did our very best to be the best spouses we could be and were abused, put down, made fun of, and treated poorly as a result. We were "weak" to the cold of heart. These sweet, kind-hearted people have now left these karmic relationships, having learned to love and value themselves, and are now ready to begin a whole new level of love all its own. They are evolving into realizing their worth and yearning for the kind of love that heals you from the inside out... a child like, innocent, pure hearted love that makes their hearts soar and their partner cherishes them for who they are (because they essentially ARE them). They're coming home to themselves. Pure harmonious love with balanced masculine/feminine energy.
A SIGN YOU MAY BE CLOSE TO UNION
I've heard this before that many twins come into union right at a time in their lives when it felt like their lives were falling apart. I always thought that was weird and my life's always gone so well I didn't suspect that would be the case for me, but, now I think I know why that is. I think it's because unions happen around lunar eclipses and other intense moon energies. Within these energies, you are forced (made to feel SO uncomfortable you make big changes) to get rid of everything that doesn't serve you anymore, face your demons, and kind of start your life all over again with a clean slate. Makes sense that's when he would step in, right? Like having a blank canvas and create new lives together. My twin and I actually met under the energy of an eclipse.
Lately, I've felt this way. Like the whole world is against me in certain ways (the areas where the universe is encouraging me to let go and re-invent/create). I'm dealing with these energies in a productive way, but it does feel my life is falling apart in many aspects. The online readings lately, for example, have been saying there was a friend who was pretending to be a friend, but was jealous of me and/or my twin. I couldn't figure out, for the life of me, who that would be. Then I had this weird thing happen with a friend where she seemed super defensive out of nowhere and kept taking me wrong (I was joking and she'd take me seriously and/or get defensive) then she would whisper about me in a negative tone. I was like, "Whoa! Where is this coming from? I feel like she doesn't even know me to be feeling and acting this way. Who is this person and where did my friend go??" then the readings came to mind. I'm sure you've experienced this as well at some point in your life. It ended up being a great lesson 'cause the universe was teaching me how to stand on my own two feet, not need her, and listen to my intuition. It was a bit of a startling realization, but it's best if you can see the gift in whatever's happening so you can appreciate it and not fight the transformation that's trying to come through. Don't make a big story up about it. Just thank God and move on. No matter how bad it seems, it's always for your highest good.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE, BUT ALL ONE
Sometimes, when we're going through this "life falling apart" time like this, we may feel lonely, betrayed, hurt, and left to fend for ourselves and like no one has our backs... like it's you against the world. But alone really means "all one". When you realize you are all one, there is no difference between you and everyone else and, just like water runs any obstacles, so, too, can you move right around anyone you feel you can't trust anymore and be supported by anyone and everyone. In a sense, when you broaden your scope, you are then supported by ALL of life. A stranger may give you a huge tip, a hug, someone from the past offers you gratitude. You run across a wonderful opportunity.
SIGNS HE'S THE ONE
* You are probably quite psychic or have some special gifts. He does, too, but in complimentary ways so, when the two of you come together, you're a force to be reckoned with!
* There's been a spiritual occurrence, a feeling like you really "get" him, that has stood out to you. There's a certain comfort there. You trust him automatically. It can take you back to an innocent, childlike time in your life like how your best friend felt when you were little.
* You may have started to look into twin flames after you met him.
* Synchronicities, numbers, and other signs. For me, I would pray for certain things and receive an answer right away or soon after. When I talk to his higher self, I always get something back in some way shape or form. It's not always direct communication, but keep your eyes peeled for signs that are answering your prayers.
* You can't stop thinking about him. Even when you put him completely out of your mind and move on, he's still in the background like trying to run from your own shadow. You just can't shake him.
* You may feel his feelings out of nowhere that couldn't be explained as being your own. One time I felt panicked about getting into a relationship with him in fear I would lose him in time just like everyone else in my life. Then I had the thought, "Wait a minute. This isn't me.", but processed it anyway because, ultimately, what you heal in you, you heal in him.
* He boosts your faith in men again. He makes you feel like you can love again and, at the same time, it scares you for the same reason (and he's going through the same thing!)
* Psychics and readers can tell you he's the one, but you're ultimately the only one who can really tell. It's just not like anything you've ever had with anyone else before. There's a purity... a divine intervention feeling about it like you're both Earth Angels or something.
* You may feel the inclination to protect him like you would a sweet kitten. I know I did. This is because the Divine Feminine's job is protector and visionary. The Divine Masculine's role is to make our visions into reality (they're manifesting machines!). You imagine it, he creates it.
* Eventually, you'll find out he feels the same way too, but you may have to wait for confirmation on this one. ;^)
WHY ISN'T HE REACHING OUT TO ME?
At this time, Divine Feminines are feeling awfully ignored and rejected. They question the connection and think this might just be a case of unrequited love and wonder when it's time to move on. You can go ahead and try to cut chords and get rid of him, girls, and that might be a good idea for some of you in case he's not your true twin. But, if he is your twin, there'll be no shaking him no matter what you try (and vice versa). So, why is he not reaching out or responding to you? I know this is overly simple, but, he's just not ready. Period. Your job, at this point, is to make your wish, so to speak (which you have), and leave it totally alone with faith it's all working out. My guided meditation above helps you be in that feeling tone without putting pressure on your masculine. You just bask in the lovely energy of being with him. Take your attention completely off of him, keep healing, get on with your love mission, and have fun! Also, respect his decision not to reach out 'cause he's got a darn good reason for it. If you were a fly on the wall in his life, trust me, you'd be grateful he's keeping you out of it! He's sparing you. And, at the time, and in the right way, there he'll be. And you will be rest assured he likes you back and all those readings all this time were true. You'll feel silly for not trusting the universe. TRUST. Do the exercises below to deal with any resentment or other negative emotions that arise. If thinking about your twin makes you mad, don't think about him. The law of attraction will just keep bringing you more frustration. Just focus on gratitude and enjoyment of life.
WATCHING TWIN FLAME READINGS
There are lots of readers out there in Youtube land. I avoid fear-based ones and stick with the ones that seem spot on for me as it speaks to the DF (Divine Feminine). If you don't know who your twin flame is, just know that, if they're describing you and what you're going through to a "T", you've got a counterpart out there that is going through what the DM (Divine Masculine) is going through so just learn and grow till you two meet and magnetize toward union. If you do know who he is, keep in mind these readings are geared toward the collective so not everyone will resonate in every way. For example, I resonate with most divine feminine readings 100%, but, when they talk about issues she's having with her children, I know that's about the DF's who have kids... not me. But the rest applies. Also, sometimes, they talk about the DF who's mad and resentful because of years of difficulty between her and her DM. That's not me either. My twin flame journey started in February. So there'll be some things like that you'll ignore and just pay attention to those things that pertain... most of all, the advice.
WATCHING DIVINE MASCULINE READINGS
You'll notice the DM videos are watched twice as much as the DF videos. But, if you are only looking at the DM readings only, you probably aren't ready for union. Why? This whole process is about you learning self love. When you love yourself, you're healing him and yourself at the same time. I always watch the DF videos as well so I can get advice from ancient tarot wisdom (divine divination) as to what to do to grow or assist. In any relationship, you have to take personal responsibility. You can't wait on a man to make you happy. If you're more interested in snooping about him, but don't care about your own growth, your union will be delayed.
DEALING WITH OUR SHADOW SIDE
The most important element of coming together with your twin flame is each of you being balanced equally in your feminine and masculine sides and to be healed and whole individually (it's not like you both have to be perfect, but you've got to be willing to take personal responsibility and not let your ego run the show). In order to do this, you've got to face your shadow side head on. Here are some tools to help you breeze through any triggers and issues that will arise to cleanse you of any remnants of co-dependency, fear, and ego that remain as an obstacle to you guys coming together:
Respecting the Shadow exercise
Learning how to love yourself
I LOVE YOU (I do this every night)
Physically touch your heart, close your eyes, and say, "I love you" to yourself like a mantra repeatedly (and, yes, he feels it too)
Then, once you've got a good buzz going, start thinking back through your day and reflect on anything that bothered you about you and say, "I love you even when..." or "I love you even if..." and keep going till you can't think of anything else that needs addressing. It's a great way to love yourself and get a good night's sleep. You can even do this right when you're hard on yourself throughout the day too.